“I overdosed on 5th Avenue with my son in the back of the car. It’s probably one of the most horrible things that’s happened to me and one of the biggest blessings of my life. My son got taken and I have a CPS case now, but it made me realize what I was doing to not only myself, but to my wife, my son, my daughter, and my family in general. It opened my eyes to everything.
I spent four months in jail, and then I came to Recovery Point. I have learned how to cope with different situations, and I have almost a year clean. I am grateful for this program.
I just want to be a good role model for my son and my daughter, be a good husband to my wife, and be a good son to my parents. I want people to be able to look at me and think, ‘I know he’s been through a bunch of stuff but look what he’s doing now.’ I know it’s gonna be several years before I get all that trust back, but I really just want to be a productive citizen.
One of the main things I’ve had pulling on my heart for several years is to work with kids from the ages of 13-18. That’s when people start going down the wrong path. I really want to be a role model to people.
It’s really tough on me, because my wife and I are going to have to live with what we did, but it can go two ways: it can be the fuel for the fire to help us continue with recovery, or the fuel for the fire to lead us back down a bad road, and it’s up to us to choose which path we want to go down.”
“When I came back from the 28-day [rehabilitation] program, I thought it would be a good idea to run for public office. I won the election for city council in Charleston.
Right after the election is when this happened with my cousin. He was one of the first cases where he allegedly gave heroin to somebody who overdosed and died from it.
When [the police] took his cell phone, they found incriminating messages between us. They tied me to what had just happened. The news blew it up, like I was trafficking drugs into Charleston. That wasn’t the case; I was a user. But the news could use me to blow this case up, since I was a public figure.
It was a regular thing for me to be on the news every couple months. It was just a circus, and I didn’t care because I was using. Everything in my life revolved around me being high. I wouldn’t go to work or spend time with my kids unless I was high. It was so miserable that I couldn’t wake up in the morning and look myself in the mirror. I hated myself for what I had become but I wasn’t able to stop.
Once I got into treatment at Recovery Point, I resigned from city council after two or three weeks. I’m coming up on fifteen months clean. I don’t have cravings or triggers. I don’t even think about using today—it doesn’t even cross my mind. I know all the things I’ve gained back in my life because I’m sober. And I’m still gaining things.
I’m about to become a recovery coach. I’m getting my license back. I have my children back in my life. I have a job and I’m a responsible citizen now. I can get up early and go to work. I have money in my pocket that I’m not trying to blow on drugs.
It’s just a good feeling, and the biggest thing is my children being proud of me. My relationship with them has been awesome. It’s nice to be able to buy them clothes or take them to a movie.”
“I’ve been in the madness of drugs and alcohol for the last thirteen years since my mother passed away. It seemed like after I lost my mother, that is whenever it got really bad.
I’ve made a lot of mistakes. I’ve learned how to let some of them go. It’s all a learning process. I’m still paying for a couple of my mistakes, but it’s okay. I have my freedom. I’ve come a long way.
I come from a good family. My mother and father both worked. They supported us kids. We had never done without. It’s not even like I came from an abusive family or anything like that. I couldn’t have asked for better parents. I think it was just to cover up pain when I lost my mother. Once I started the drugs, I realized, ‘Hey, all of my pain goes away.’ But it actually brings more pain further down.
I am now a graduate of HER Place and have my own apartment. I’m so blessed to find the freedom in recovery, and I have discovered happiness with 16 months clean.
What motivates me to stay clean today is my freedom and when I look back and realize how happy I am being clean compared to being miserable, thinking I was happy in the madness, and I wasn’t. It’s just nice to be happy with who I am today.”
“I found out I was pregnant January 1999. I had my 16th birthday that February, got married in March, moved into my own house with my husband, and had a baby in September. By December, I was drinking on a daily basis.
Something just wasn’t right. I was a child and had all these problems I had never addressed before. I was trying anything to take my mind off of reality. I quit everything when I was pregnant but after she was born I started again, and it was a little bit more this time.
This turned into a fifteen year process of losing and gaining, losing and gaining, and finally I lost everything.
It got to the point that I lost a job, and my husband couldn’t keep a job. We decided to start selling Suboxone because we could both stay well and have money. We got a little money and I got back on my feet again, but then I was reintroduced to my drug of choice, and that was pretty much the downfall to everything. I lost everything within about six months.
Finally, [my house] was raided. In February of 2016, I was charged with manufacturing. I got out on bond, but about a month later, it was revoked.
When I got to HER Place, things just changed. I don’t want to use drugs. I’m not ashamed of the things I’ve done anymore. We have weekends with our two boys, and our daughter is slowly starting to come back around. A year ago, I was sitting in jail. I never thought I’d be here; I’ve completely done a 180. It’s great. I don’t have an empty spot anymore.”
Not only is she a HER Place Alumni, but is now a full-time staff member for Recovery Point HER Place.